Mother-in-law Hospitalized

My Mother-in-law has been in the hospital since Sunday.  Yesterday was the first day that things started looking up.  Hopefully, she will be able to leave the hospital in a couple days.

Last week, she suffered a minor stroke leaving her with just a little weakness on the left side.  They found calcium deposits in her brain and told us that another stroke is likely.   Then she felt extremely weak on Sunday morning and had her sister who lives next door call 911.  At the hospital, they found her hemoglobin level to be at 6 when it supposed to be at 12.  So she was severely anemic.

She was given 2 pints of blood and was feeling a little better.  But there were other issues that kept her there.  The next day her hemoglobin had dropped again.  So they began various tests to determine where she was bleeding internally at.  After all was said and done, as of yesterday evening they still don't know where she was bleeding from, but it appears to have stopped.  She received another transfusion and some potassium.

The doctors are having a consult with each other today to determine a plan of action.  But since she is now stable, it looks likely that she will be leaving the hospital in the next few days.  We were told that social services would call a family meeting to discuss her care options upon leaving the hospital.  A rehab facility has been mentioned several times, but she and her daughter are against this.  I think she probably needs it.  She is so weak and plus it would help her get over the weakness from the stroke.  Unfortunately, they see rehab at a skilled facility tantamount to placing her in a "home."  I don't want to see her in a nursing home at all, none of us do.  But they can't seem to wrap their minds around the difference.

The other alternative mentioned to us so far has been a home nursing aide.  They are both even resistant to that.  But my Sister-in-law has some major medical issues of her own, and frankly, there is no way she can care for her mother.  She can only hobble a few steps with a walker, how is she going to help her mother clean house or bathe herself?  Unfortunately, my Sister-in-law is the medical proxy for my Mother-in-law.  So the rest of the family with not have the final say other than trying to persuade them both that they need help.  I'm afraid something will happen if she goes home without help.

I think at that point, Adult Protective Services might get involved claiming that my Mother-in-law is being neglected.  Then what would happen?  I don't even know.